As many of you may already know, Jason and I were recently told that we're not going to be able to conceive children without some sort of assistance. This being said, I've gotten some interesting comments from people unaware that we're not pregnant due to our own personal preferences.
I enjoy making light of things. I need to laugh about things rather than crying. I decided to compile a list of things you shouldn't say to people that can't conceive. (And you never know who that may be, so let's just be careful people!) :)
1. If I didn't know any better, I'd think you were pregnant. Oh gee thanks! I am pretty sure that you just called me fat! That's just what I needed to start my Monday.
2. Did you forget how to make a baby? Yeah, I forgot to take notes that day in health class. Would you mind refreshing my memory - with colored illustrations and all?
3. It's okay that you haven't had more kids. You probably couldn't handle more than one. Saying it with a smile doesn't make it funny. Rude, definitely. But not funny. See? I'm not laughing!
4. Don't you think it's time you gave Emslee (or substitute any name you want,) a sibling? Sure! I'd love to! Are you offering to donate one of yours?
5. Just quit trying. It always happens when you're not trying. Oh my mistake! I guess the doctors are wrong. The answer isn't medications or injections or even in vitro, it's doing nothing! And remind me, what medical school did you go to?
In all seriousness, it's already been quite the journey medically for us in our 5 1/2 years of marriage. While this little bump in the road wasn't quite what we expected, we know that we'll get through it with the love and support of our friends and family. We are so blessed to be surrounded by so many that love us!
Beautiful Tanner Girls
Me with my Mom, Sisters, and Niece
6 comments:
I love you Jill! I hope you are blessed with more children soon. Is that okay to say? You're a fabulous mother! I do the same thing, might as well laugh because crying gives you a headache.
I agree we do need to be more careful with our words! I hope I am not one who has offended u or Jason!! We never know peoples personal circumstances and we should be respectful to them!! I love all of u with all of my heart n we all ache for each of u as well!! May you be blessed very soon with what your sweet heart desires most!!!!!
Even if it's was your choice not to have another child people shouldn't say theses things! Way to rub salt in it. In my experience most comments like these come from people you hardly know too. Oh gosh. Hang in there kid!
I swear, some people are not born with filters! I am so sorry, Jill. You are such a strong lady, and such a great example to me. I wish the best for you and Jason.
You are amazing, I just wish you didn't have to go through this. I am convinced these painful experiences are, in part, to help us have empathy for others down the road. You guys deserve every happiness, and I know without a doubt, it will work out. Love you.
I love you Jill! You are truly in a million;)
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